Couples EMDR Therapy Intensives for Grief and Loss in Richmond, VA
A place to remember, reflect, and move through the grief together. Because love doesn’t end when a child dies—and neither should your connection.
You’re not here by choice—you’re here because love and loss collided.
You searched the earth and found each other. You came together and created a home, a love and a new life. Now you feel robbed. Cheated. Alone. Despite lying next to your partner in the same bed as you always have each night. Alone. Despite sitting across from one another at the same table you have shared all your meals each day.
Grief has a cruel way of rearranging everything.
Both of you may have returned to work, the bills keep on coming, the dog still needs to be walked. Friends and family might still be calling to “check in,” but their words are falling flat by now. Your spouse may still be recovering physically from childbirth, yet there is no baby to hold. Your child’s last load of laundry may still be folded on their bed, waiting…never to be worn again.
Both of you might be putting yourselves together on the outside— but under the surface you feel shattered.
Conversations between you feel strained or even distant. You're expressing your grief through anger and feeling guilt while your partner may be sad and withdrawn.
Both of you have questions that no one seems to know how to answer.
You've tried talking, maybe even gone to couples therapy. But you both know deep down this needs more than a 50-minute weekly session squeezed between the obligations and the strain of life.
You’re looking for space—real, uninterrupted space—to be in your grief.
To feel seen by one another. To finally be able to speak the unspeakable. To cry the tears that you haven’t allowed out. To ask, “Why me? Why Us?” To get mad. To find release. To hold one another and maybe, just maybe, feel the warmth of connection again even in this world that seems so incredibly cold.
A different kind of therapy for a different kind of grief.
I will never take anything away from someone who has suffered the loss of a loved one. The loss of a pregnancy. The death of a baby. The sudden loss of a child. This kind of grief is primal and only understood by those who have gone through it themselves. When a couple goes through grief on such a visceral level, traditional therapy can feel like trying to put out a forest fire with a teacup of water.
I used to simply talk to my clients about their trauma. Then I learned about EMDR.
I used to see my clients for a standard 50-60 minute therapy hour 1-2 times a month.
Then I learned about Intensives. Now, because of the specialized nature and depth of the work that I do, I only offer grief- focused EMDR intensives. I focus on the “downstairs brain,” and offer a personalized, immersive experience that allows you and your partner to do in 1 to 3 days what might take months in a traditional weekly format.
Think of traditional therapy like pushing the gas pedal down in a race car and barely crawling forward. When you do start to move, then you have to take your foot off the gas and hit the brakes before you’ve made it very far at all. An intensive is like stepping into a race car with a trained co-pilot—you push the pedal and immediately feel the momentum. You still get to steer. You still control the pace. But you are suddenly flying around the track at speeds you have never reached before. The ride is smooth, you feel calm. Your partner is beside you, each of you feels held and safe. The pain of your grief begins to dissipate. Your love seems to grow bigger. You are no longer stuck.
What Makes Intensives With Me Different
Every aspect of your intensive with me is tailored to you and your partner–as individuals and as a couple.
Each part of the couple is asked to complete a personalized workbook ahead of the intensive. This helps you to begin reflecting on key memories, losses, attachment patterns, and hopes for the future before you even walk through the door and continues to give me insight into your history so I have the strongest foundation possible going into our intensive.
I want to maximize our intensive time. Therefore, I conduct a 90-minute pre-intensive interview which helps me get to know your story, your grief, and your goals.
Intensives are a deep emotional dive and therefore I want you to be as comfortable as possible in every way. You’ll receive a curated comfort menu, allowing you to shape your intensive space by selecting preferences for physical environment, preferred snacks and beverages, offering sensory items including a choice of aromatherapy and soothing sounds or music, a selection of expressive art supplies to enhance your grief processing and connection and even the option to bring comfort items from home.
You’ll have the freedom and space to take breaks when needed. To be together or apart. To cry, rest, talk, create, or simply breathe. I hold space for both of you—because grief may be shared, but how it’s carried is never the same.
This isn’t just therapy. It’s a carefully held experience—one that begins long before you ever sit down on the couch.
From our first conversation to the days and weeks that follow your intensive, you and your partner will be supported each step of the way.
Here’s how we’ll walk through it together:
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A chance for us to connect, talk about what’s bringing you here, and explore whether an intensive is the right fit. There’s no pressure—just a conversation.
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Before we meet in person, we’ll spend time getting to know your stories—what you’ve carried, how you grieve, and what you need. This is where the heart of your experience begins.
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Each of you will receive a curated workbook to explore at your own pace. It’s filled with gentle prompts, reflections, and space to reconnect with yourselves and each other before stepping into the intensive.
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You’ll receive a simple, supportive menu where you can share your preferences—everything from snacks and drinks to sensory comforts and lighting. Your therapy space will be designed with intention, just for you.
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In-person. Unrushed. Spacious. We’ll spend the day moving through EMDR, reflection, connection, and quiet moments. You’ll have time together, time apart, and breaks to breathe, walk, or just rest as needed.
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We’ll reconnect to process what came up during the intensive and talk about how to carry it forward into your everyday life.
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Grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and neither does your healing. You’ll have the option to return for additional sessions—brief but meaningful check-ins whenever you need to reconnect with this work.
What You Can Expect to Walk Away With
Grief doesn’t go away—but it can change shape.
Here’s what this experience can offer…
A deeper understanding of how each partner grieves—and how to support one another
Relief from emotional stuckness or looping thoughts
Space to express unspoken fears, guilt, or anger
Permission to honor your baby or child in ways that feel real to you
Tools to handle milestones, anniversaries, and hard conversations with family or friends
A shift from survival to living with love alongside loss
Investment + Details
Every Grief Journey Is Unique—So Is Each Intensive
If making decisions feels heavy, you’re not alone. These options are here to meet you where you are. We can explore what makes the most sense during your consultation call. There’s no rush and there’s no perfect starting place–just the one that feels most possible right now.
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When you want to go deeper, but need smaller steps
Mini-Intensives are a series of 90-minute therapy sessions that allow you and your partner to gently engage in intensive-style work over time. These sessions include:
Available in packages of 5 or 10 sessions at $300 per session
Scheduled at a pace that works for you
Designed for couples who may need shorter, more manageable segments or who prefer to stretch the work out over several weeks
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When you’re ready for dedicated, uninterrupted time to be in this work together.
These full-day intensives offer the time, space, and personalized care that weekly therapy can’t provide. Each experience includes:
90 minute pre-intensive interview
Dedicated 3-hours of face to face time in my office each day
Personalized pre-intensive workbooks for each partner
Custom and curated therapy environment based on your comfort and sensory preferences
90-minute post-intensive integration session to reflect, process and plan your next steps
EMDR Intensive Rates
Two Day Intensive $2600
Three Day Intensive $3200
Four Day Intensive $3800
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When you need a touchpoint to reconnect with the work, each other, or yourself.
These 90-minute follow-up sessions are available as needed–whether you’re navigating an anniversary, anticipating a milestone or simply needing a space to check in and feel supported again. Each session is $300
You don’t have to live like this forever.
Grief this big doesn’t just “go away,” but you can find your way through it. There is a path forward—one that honors your pain, your love, and your partnership.
EMDR Intensives offer you and your partner the time and space to pause, breathe and reconnect. Neither one of you has to keep carrying your grief alone or pretending to be stronger than you feel for the other. And most of all, you don’t have to figure it out 50 minutes at a time over weeks, months and years. We can begin right now, together and you can find relief sooner than you ever thought you could.
FAQs
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EMDR intensives condense weeks or months of therapy into a focused block of time, allowing for deeper work in a safe, uninterrupted space. Rather than being limited by weekly 50-minute sessions, you have the time and emotional room to process at your own pace—with therapeutic guidance the entire way.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) helps the brain and body reprocess traumatic experiences—including losses that feel too big to name. For couples who have experienced perinatal, infant, or child loss, EMDR can help reduce emotional overwhelm, ease triggers, and allow for meaningful reflection without retraumatization.
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Absolutely. EMDR for couples is carefully structured to ensure each person feels supported, and that the relationship becomes a safe space for healing, even amidst differences in grief expression.
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Yes. Whether this is your first time in therapy or you’ve tried other approaches, intensives offer a uniquely immersive and customized experience that complements (rather than replaces) other work you may have done.
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That’s exactly why this space exists. You don’t have to grieve the same way to grieve together. These intensives make space for the hard conversations, the quiet distance, the different paces—and help you find your rhythm again.
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Intensives are a premium therapeutic service and are not covered by insurance. This is because insurance companies require standard session lengths and ongoing weekly treatment, which does not align with the focused, extended format of intensives. However, I can provide you with a detailed superbill that you may choose to submit to your insurance for possible out-of-network reimbursement.
My current packages are:
Mini-Intensives: 5-session ($1,500) or 10-session ($3,000) packages of 90 minutes each.
Two-Day Intensive: $2,600
Three-Day Intensive: $3,200
Four-Day Intensive: $3,800
Each package includes a thorough intake session, customized client workbook, and a post-intensive integration session to help you carry the work forward.